When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough – 6 Things To Remember

It’s funny how we can love other people so much but when it comes to loving ourselves it is so difficult. We always compare ourselves to others and think that everyone else is so much better and that we aren’t good enough. We judge our failures and rejections and think that we are unlovable because one person rejected us.

It’s perfectly normal to compare ourselves to those around us or to people we see in the media. But that isn’t the whole story. What you see on a computer screen is only part of their story. 

When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough – 6 Things to Remember

1. We Are All Equal, No One Is Any Better Than Anyone Else

We are all human and we all share the same world. Just because someone has more money or more friends, it doesn’t mean they are better. Maybe they aren’t as healthy as you are, no one knows what goes on in someone else’s life. Maybe they are better creators because they know about the Law of Attraction. That doesn’t make them a better person though.

Anyone can be a great creator; they just may have been deliberately creating their life for longer. We all find information that helps us when we need it and only when we are ready for it. I wasn’t ready for the Law of Attraction information 20 years ago, but I was 10 years ago.

Some people may seem to have it all, but they do not. Before you compare your life to another realize that there may be tons of things, they are going through that you do not know about. They might have the same insecurities as you do.

Just because you perceive someone as beautiful and having it all it does not mean that is how they see themselves. They might even be more miserable than you and have less self-confidence depending on how they view themselves. Just because they seem to have it all, it does not mean they do. Nothing is black and white in this world.

2. We All Have Setbacks

Everyone has setbacks and failures. No one is without them. You wouldn’t be on earth if you didn’t experience challenges. No matter how successful others are, they too have all dealt with different setbacks in their life.

One of my clients that I trained didn’t think she was good enough. She lost a bunch of weight, gained it back, and had to go back to a personal trainer to help her lose it once again. It’s ok to not be perfect. We are all human and things happen in our lives that will sometimes knock us down, but we always get back up and get that drive in us again.

3. We Have All Been Rejected

You are not alone in this! Each and every person has been rejected in some form or another. Maybe by a lover, or a job or by their kids or by the person, they are trying to sell something to. Rejection is part of life and it doesn’t make you ‘less than’. You are not alone as everyone has experienced this in some form or another.

I know I’ve felt like I wasn’t good enough especially growing up when I was a teenager.  I’ve got rejected tons by guys, for different jobs, etc.  Looking back now it has made me stronger and it was the fuel for the fire that started some amazing projects.

I had my own personal training business at one time; I thanked all the crappy jobs I had and the good jobs who didn’t want me. It gave me a desire to do more with my life. It was one of the best decisions I ever made to start my business. 

Getting my heart broken many times made me want to go out and create a better life for myself. I worked out harder and I dug deeper to find my purpose in life. I wasn’t trying to change because someone didn’t like me, it gave me the desire to go after what I already wanted on a bigger scale than before.

There are still moments where I feel like I’m not good enough and then I remember that of course, I am! I am just as good as anyone else. We all have things to offer and we all have different strengths.

4. How You See Yourself Isn’t Necessarily How the Rest of the World Views You 

I had so many women clients that thought they were huge and disgusting when in reality they looked beautiful. They were at a normal weight. Once they started telling me their stories, I understood why they thought this.

One lady had a father who didn’t think she was good enough, so she believed it to be true. No matter how many times I told her she was beautiful and at a healthy weight, she didn’t believe me. I could never convince her what was true because she had this belief that she wasn’t. Even if she lost a bunch of weight, I know she still wouldn’t be happy with herself. In her mind, she wasn’t good enough, no matter how big or small she was.

Many people’s self-perception of themselves is screwed. They look in the mirror and don’t like what they see. They think they are not good enough because they don’t make a million dollars or because they aren’t the best at something. But that is just one perception and I can guarantee that the rest of the world doesn’t have the same perception.

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5. Focus on What You Have Accomplished

So often our accomplishments don’t get as much recognition from us as they should. Others might compliment your accomplishments, but do you? Do you tell yourself how proud you are of yourself or do you think you don’t deserve that praise and recognition?

Next time you achieve something no matter how big or small take the time to milk it and tell yourself how proud you are of yourself. Everyone in the world can tell you how great you are but if you don’t tell yourself it then it doesn’t do much.

6. It Is Often a Limiting Belief That Holds You Back

Not being good enough is a limiting belief we picked up from someone or somewhere in our life. A belief is just a thought you keep thinking and you can change it by thinking a different thought.

Every time you catch yourself thinking that you aren’t good enough replace it was a better thought.

If you can’t go straight to thinking that you are amazing, then start with something simpler like telling yourself you are equal to others. Being equal is better than thinking everyone is better than you. Eventually, you will be able to get to the point of telling yourself you are amazing, as everyone is in their own way.

You Are Good Enough

Being alive means that you are good enough. I know it can be tough especially when you go through hard times or changes in your life and you don’t know what you will become.

It is easy to judge yourself and compare yourself to others and wonder why they are so much further ahead or how they have enough willpower to eat healthy and workout every day. We really don’t know what struggles others are going through so it’s very difficult to compare.

When you don’t feel good enough remember that you are enough no matter what accomplishments you have yet to achieve and where you are in comparison to others, being you is enough.

~Meghan