What Is Your Anxiety Telling You? 4 Ways To Eliminate It

“When Thinking About Life, Remember This: No Amount of Guilt Can Solve the Past, And No Amount of Anxiety Can Change the Future.”

Anxiety is a horrible feeling to have. I think every single person in the world has felt it at one point or another. It is uncomfortable and can interfere with your life. But it is here to tell you something. So how do you find out what it’s telling you and how do you eliminate it?

My Story – My Anxiety Was Making Me Depressed

I have a history of having anxiety and depression. However, I have it fairly under control and I don’t often get it anymore. I’ve had everything from social anxiety to general anxiety to depression.

For me, when I get anxiety it feels like knots sitting in the pit of my stomach. It causes me to feel frozen in my tracks and makes it extremely difficult to do everyday things.

I started to notice that I was getting more anxious than usual. It was affecting my life and making it difficult for me to do everyday normal things.

I didn’t want to go to the gym because who wants to workout when you have a big ball of knots sitting in the pit of your stomach?

I didn’t want to socialize because I was afraid of my anxiety turning into social anxiety. My face has a tendency to get flushed when I get social anxiety. So, since I was so anxious I didn’t want my social anxiety kicking in and for me to get embarrassed and ashamed of having a flushed face.

I was so anxious that I just didn’t know how I’d react around others. So, I avoided people altogether. I felt lonely and like I had no friends.

The anxiety was also preventing me from doing much else in my life. I wasn’t in the mood to work because I had zero motivation. I just wanted the constant tension that I could feel in my stomach to be gone! The anxiety was getting out of control and causing me to be depressed.

So, I decided it was time to get help. I called up a psychic who told me that if you are at peace you don’t have anxiety and if you aren’t at peace then you have anxiety. She said it’s one way or the other. It doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. Anxiety doesn’t have to consume you and you can completely get rid of it.

What is Your Anxiety Telling You? How to Listen & Eliminate It 

#1 Way to Eliminate Your Anxiety – Ask Yourself What Thoughts You Are Thinking

The first thing I started to do was to pay attention to the thoughts I was having when the anxiety came about. I had never really thought about what was going on in my head when I felt anxious. But it was time to listen and get to the bottom of it.

By doing this I found a pattern as to why I was getting these nervous knots in my stomach. These are the thoughts that I found were at the root of my anxiety. 

=> Guilty Thoughts Cause Anxiety

Sometimes I’d get anxious when I was feeling guilty about something. I’d get anxious if I felt guilty for not going to the gym. Or I would get worried because I felt guilty that I didn’t say something right in the last conversation I had. At times, I felt guilty that I wasn’t able to help someone.

No matter the reason for the guilt, it can cause anxiety. But guilt isn’t even real! It is something we make up in our heads when we feel like we should have done something different. More often than not, the other party involved isn’t even upset with us, but we are throwing all this guilt on ourselves for no reason. We are basically beating ourselves up for thinking we should have done something different.

Choices in life aren’t always easy. All we can do is make the best choice we can at that moment. By beating ourselves up afterward, it can cause some serious anxiety.

So, by realizing that guilt isn’t real and only something you put upon yourself you can start to stop those thoughts in your mind before your anxiety gets out of control. By not feeling guilty, you will not be getting any more anxiety from that guilt. It is one way to eliminate your anxiety.

=> Unworthy Thoughts Cause Anxiety

A big reason why we can experience anxiety is when we feel unworthy. When I didn’t have a job and someone tried to help me, I’d get a huge anxious knot in my stomach. I felt so unworthy of receiving the help. I thought, “I should be able to do it all on my own, I don’t deserve help because I am not making my own money.”

We all need people in our lives and people enjoy helping others. So, if you are feeling unworthy that someone else has to help you, don’t! You might be doing more good than harm.

You see, when someone helps someone else they get this really good feeling inside of them because they know they are doing a good thing. In turn, they feel really good about themselves! So, if you are feeling unworthy about putting anyone out by asking for their help, you might actually be doing them a favour by causing them to feel good about helping.

Feeling unworthy is a very common problem. Pay attention to your anxiety and see if you are getting it when you are feeling unworthy. If you are then take the steps to convince yourself that you are worthy.

Tell yourself that you aren’t a burden and that you may actually be helping someone by letting them help you. Tell yourself that we are all equal and no one person deserves more happiness than another. Understand that you are human and we all go through good and bad times. Sometimes we feel unworthy and other times we feel amazing. Sometimes people help us and other times we help them.

=> Fearful Thoughts Cause Anxiety

If you are feeling any sort of fear, it will cause you to get anxious. I read an article that said 9 out of 10 of our fears never happen. So, why are we always so fearful of something bad happening? It probably won’t happen anyways.

Fear isn’t real either. It is just thoughts we make up in our heads as a way to protect ourselves. Our ego can cause us to feel fear. It is doing its job and protecting us, but we don’t always need it to take charge.

Calm your fear by understanding that most of the fears you have won’t ever happen. If they do you will deal with them then, but chances are they won’t.

#2 Way to Eliminate Your Anxiety – Workout

I am aware that this is a very common thing for people to say. You’ve heard it a million times. But I’m here to tell you that yes it really does work!

When you workout you get all those happy feelings and good endorphins activated in your brain. Guess what? When you feel good you can’t have anxiety at the same time. It is impossible!

It is impossible to feel fear and peace at the same time. So, during your workout and when you are done there’s a good chance you will feel very much at peace and have zero anxiety.

Besides all the endorphins, when you workout you will gain more self-confidence as you see what your body can do. Heck, you’ll be proud of yourself just for actually making it to the gym. Getting to the gym is more difficult than the actual workout; it truly is. Working out is a great way to get rid of anxiety.

#3 Way to Eliminate Your Anxiety – Eliminate Your Sense of Urgency

Another thing that causes anxiety is a sense of urgency. Do you have an assignment that absolutely needs to be done before the end of the day? That will probably cause you some anxiety.

I get uneasy if I feel like I’m going to be late for something. As someone who hates to be late, that sense of urgency causes my stomach to get anxious knots in it.

So, what can you do to eliminate the anxiety that is from a sense of urgency? One thing you can do is give yourself more time. If you think you are going to be late traveling somewhere then make sure to always leave early. Who cares if you arrive early, at least you won’t have anxiety from being in a hurry. You will give yourself plenty of time in case of delays also.

If you have an assignment that needs to be done ask your boss for more time. Or get up earlier to get it done. It might be a hassle to wake up earlier but it is better than being anxious you won’t get it done in time.

Also, realize that you are human and you can only do so much in one day. By eliminating some of the issues giving you anxiety, it can help to take that fear away. Once the fear is gone, so is the anxiety.

#4 Way to Eliminate Your Anxiety – Pay Attention to What You Are Listening To

The things we listen to can cause us to experience anxiety. Even music can cause our heart rate to go up and feel panicked without us even realizing it.

Pay attention to what you are listening to on the radio. Is the music you are listening to causing you to feel uneasy? If so, change the station. Once I started to pay attention I noticed a huge difference when a song came on the radio that wasn’t very ‘feel-good.’ I instantly felt anxious. You don’t have to listen to it!

Or if you are listening to the news on the radio and they are talking about something bad it might cause you concern. Change the station if this happens. You may feel like you should listen to what is going on in the world. But I don’t think it’s necessary if it is causing you fear, especially if there is nothing you can do about it.

TV is in the same category. Certain shows can actually give you anxiety. Yes, they may be exciting but is it worth it if it is causing you stress? Just take note and adjust what you are listening to if it isn’t doing you any good.

How Exactly Did I Get Rid of My Anxiety?

I did all the things above. I asked myself what I was thinking every single time I felt a twinge of anxiety. So, as soon as the anxiety crept up I asked myself “what am I thinking?” I found that it was ALWAYS thoughts of fear, feeling unworthy or guilty.

Once I recognized that the thought was false and not true my anxiety went away instantly. Every single time I could figure out why I was thinking something, understand where it came from and acknowledge that it wasn’t my reality. It was just my fear talking which isn’t valid.

I worked out more. It caused me to remove my guilt about not working out. Also, the workouts eliminated my anxiety because I was focused on something else besides whatever was bothering me. I always felt better and less anxious after a workout than before a workout.

I changed what I was listening to. As soon as I felt even a sudden twinge of uneasiness from what I was listening to, I changed the station. I didn’t need outside sources causing me stress.

I am now working out again. I am socializing with people and am not afraid that my social anxiety will kick in. I don’t feel nervous around people like I did when I had anxiety. I am working again and reclaimed my motivation. The biggest thing is that I feel like myself again – not some fearful ball of knots that might break down into tears at any minute.

My anxiety is completely gone after doing the things above. It really is a matter of noticing when it comes, what is triggering it, and then taking the necessary actions to eliminate it.

Bottom Line: What is Your Anxiety Telling You & How to Eliminate It

Anxiety is a symptom of not being at peace. Only you know what you are not at peace with.

Are you feeling guilty or unworthy? Are you fearful of something? Dig deep and figure out why you are feeling this way. Pay attention as to when the anxiety creeps up.

What are you saying to yourself right before you feel huge knots of fear in your stomach? I guarantee it isn’t something helpful.

Use the anxiety to your advantage to figure out what is going on with you. The thoughts we tell ourselves can make us or break us. So, let them make you into the person you want to be. You have full control over your anxiety, don’t let it control you.

~Meghan

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