We All Fall Apart Sometimes & It Is OK
We all have days, weeks, or even months that life just isn’t going the way we want it to. Things happen and we are allowed to deal with them in any way we want.
Sometimes we beat ourselves up when we think we should be dealing with it in a different way or that we should be getting over it faster. But that’s not how life works.
There isn’t a rule that says it should take you this amount of time to get over a certain situation. That’s the beauty of life, we are all different and have different ways of falling apart and it’s all good. We ALL fall apart sometimes and it is OK.
Emotional Experiences Take Time to Heal
If your girlfriend breaks up with you, you aren’t going to get over it in one day or one week for that matter. It is ok to take time to heal. We all need time to heal.
There is a process that happens after something bad happens and if you don’t take the time you need when you need it then it could end up causing you unwanted stress in the future. If you bottle it all up and don’t feel bad for a while then you might just explode one day and it will show up as issues in your body.
If it takes you a month to get over a relationship and you beat yourself up because it took you less time with the last relationship, there isn’t anything wrong with you. It is a different relationship and will take as long as it takes. So, next time you fall apart, let yourself! We all deserve to fall apart every now and then.
I know I’ve had some emotional experiences where I got mad at myself because a week later I wasn’t back to my happy, normal self. I thought “what is wrong with me? I should be over this by now.”
But the fact is that I was getting slightly better every day and I shouldn’t expect myself to get over something that hit me so hard in the heart so fast. My soul knows what it is doing and how long it needs to recover from an unwanted experience.
Sometimes You Can Fall Apart for No Apparent Reason & It Is OK
Do you beat yourself up if you fall apart when you have no reason to? You might wonder “why am I so messed up right now? I have no reason to be this emotional.”
There can be other explanations as to why you are acting like a crazy person for no apparent reason. It could be something in astrology causing your emotional imbalances.
Even if you don’t believe in astrology, the sun, moon, and planets affect how we feel. Certain things come up at certain times and you don’t have any control over what is going in the astrological world, but you do have control over how you deal with it.
So, if you are falling apart, just let it be. Allow yourself to cry, get mad and release all your emotions. Don’t fight against it, just allow your natural emotions to flow through you without judgment of them or you.
What to Do When You Are Falling Apart?
1. Don’t Judge Yourself
During this time, it is important to not judge yourself. That is the single worst thing you can do. You are human and allowed to feel bad sometimes. I don’t care how positive you usually are, you will go through some periods in your life that aren’t comfortable. So be careful to not judge yourself during this time.
We tend to judge ourselves when things aren’t going our way. We blame ourselves and think “how did I let this happen?” It is really important to understand that some things are learning experiences and that you chose them before you came down here to earth.
You are not doing anything wrong. In fact, nothing is ever wrong. It may feel that way but things always work themselves out the way they are supposed to. Be kind to yourself at this time. Judging and blaming only makes you feel worse. It doesn’t help the situation in any way.
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2. Understand It Is Temporary
Another thing to keep in mind is that it is temporary. When we go through things, it can feel like nothing will EVER change. But it ALWAYS does. So, understanding that it is temporary is very important.
Nothing in life is permanent. This includes the situation you are going through that is causing you pain. How fast it changes is up to you, but know that it WILL change.
3. Let Your Emotions Flow
If you feel like crying, then cry. If you feel like screaming, then scream. If you keep your emotions bottled up, they will come out eventually and it will be a more painful experience to release them all at once. So, it is important to let your emotions flow.
We are taught that strong people don’t cry and men don’t cry. I think that is BS. I think strong people are the ones who can be vulnerable enough to express how they feel. Putting up a wall between you and your emotions will only make the situation worse.
We All Fall Apart Sometimes & It Is OK
Everyone falls apart at one time or another at some point in their life. There will always be ups and downs. You can’t expect life to be one steady flow of the same emotions every single day. That would be incredibly boring. So, go with the flow of life and know that we all fall apart sometimes and it is OK.
~Meghan
