Relating Your Self-Worth To What You Have – 5 Ways You Might Be Doing This

Are you relating your self-worth to what you have or to whom you are being? Many people can fall into the misconception that what they do with their life and the material possessions they have is who they are.

This is not true; what you do is just what you do and what you have is just what you have.

Who you are as a person is what really defines your self-worth. No one is going to stand up at your funeral and say “Tom had a really nice boat”. They will stand up and say “Tom was a great father and friend”.

Here are 5 Ways You Might Be Relating Your Self-Worth to What You Have:

1. Are You Relating Your Self-Worth to Your Career?

Do you think you are less than if you have a career as a janitor as opposed to a career as a surgeon? I hope not. The difference between these two jobs is that one person has more education than the other but that does not make them any better. Every job needs to get done and it is only a perception in others’ minds that a doctor is more worthy of a person.

Any high-paying job is perceived as better and more valuable than the people who get paid the low-paying jobs. This couldn’t be further from the truth; it is just a job. The low-paying person might be a remarkable individual. There might be many reasons that they choose to have the career they do. They might not have time to get a higher education because they are so busy volunteering to help those less fortunate. Or they might be completely content in the career they are in.  The doctor might not care about anything but getting a paycheck and making tons of money.

Neither group is more worthy of good things than the other group, they equally deserve good things.  Don’t let your career and successes or failures define you. It is only what you do to support yourself, not who you are as a person.

2. Are You Relating Your Self-Worth to Your Possessions?

Do you think that living in a beautiful house and having a nice vehicle and expensive items makes you more worthy of a person? It doesn’t. It is OK to have those things if you want them but don’t let them define you as a person.

Let your actions and how you treat others be the only thing that defines your self-worth. You might be super wealthy and one of the nicest humans in the world which is great but keep remembering that who you are as a person is how you should see yourself and it will be how others see you also.

The same goes if you don’t have much. If you have an old vehicle and all your possessions are from the second-hand store it doesn’t make you less worthy. It just means that you have different things than wealthy people. You might be an amazing person, so use that to define who you are. Use what is on the inside, not the outside material possessions to define your worthiness.

3. Are You Relating Your Self-Worth to Your Failures?

Have you failed in the past and now you think you are not good enough to succeed?

Failures are stepping stones to success. Most people do not become successful after their first attempt and without little failures along the way. I have definitely fallen into the trap thinking that because I have failed at my first business that I am not good at business.

But in reality, the people who fail are the successful ones, and here’s why; they are brave enough to try in the first place.

Give yourself credit for a least trying. Many people are scared to try new things. Taking the steps of trying new things makes you a successful person. You have overcome your fear of attempting something knowing that failure could happen; that is success.

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4. Are You Relating Your Self-Worth to Your Relationship Status?

Do you think because you are single or that you don’t have tons of friends that you are not good enough? Sometimes we can define our self-worth by the people who chose to be with us.

You might think that if your partner thinks you are great then you must be, instead of just knowing that you are great.  It can also work the opposite way. If your partner doesn’t think you are great, it might affect how you see yourself and you might think that you aren’t worthy.

If you are alone you may think “no one thinks I’m relationship material because no one wants to be with me, therefore I must not be worthy of having a romantic relationship with another”.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.

There could be a bunch of reasons you aren’t in a happy romantic relationship, including that you haven’t met anyone who lives up to your standards. You might be the one choosing to not be with potential love interests, not the other way around.

5. Are You Relating Your Self-Worth to Your Appearance?

Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. You may not like your appearance but someone does! Everyone has different tastes and thinks different features are beautiful. Maybe you don’t like your big butt but your boyfriend loves it. There will always be someone who likes or wants what you have.

Some physical things you can’t change, like the features you were born with. Maybe you have always disliked your big nose but there is nothing you can do about it so why not embrace it instead of despising it. Guaranteed it is someone’s ‘perfect’ nose.

Beauty comes from the inside and the most beautiful people are the ones with the beautiful souls.

Have you ever met someone who you did not find attractive but after getting the know them they seemed like the most attractive person in the world? Or have you ever met someone who was physically your ideal perfect 10 in appearance and once you got to know them that 10 dropped to a 6? That is because the inside really does shine through.

Are You Relating Your Self-Worth to What You Have or Who You Are Being?

It is wonderful to have a great job, nice vehicles, and clothes, etc. but remember they are just things. If you lost them all today, you would still be the same worthy person you have always been just without the outside possessions.

Don’t let different situations change who you are as a human. If you are struggling know that the most important thing is how you are as a person and how you treat others.  Don’t relate your self-worth to what you have, relate it to who you are.

~Meghan