Rejection – What Is It Telling You & How Can You Learn From It?

“Rejection is Spirit’s Protection”

Rejection isn’t an easy thing to deal with. But I think it’s valuable to learn how to embrace rejection as you can’t run away from it.

We all have to face rejection at some point in our lives. If you interact with people then you are susceptible to rejection. The only way to avoid it is to never ever be around anyone ever. That doesn’t sound like much fun or even possible!

What is Rejection?

Rejection is when someone makes a point to no longer have you in their life. It might be an acquaintance or a good friend. But it always feels bad when someone purposely makes it clear that they no longer want to experience life with you. It’s not the same as when someone fades out of your life; rejection is more deliberate.

These are things such as someone deleting you on Facebook, your partner breaking up with you, the person you ask on a date saying no, someone replying to your business email saying they don’t want to work with you, or someone saying something mean to you. Even being ignored is a type of rejection.

Rejection happens in many ways in many different avenues of life. Rejection isn’t limited to romantic relationships. Every day you go out into the world you run the risk of someone rejecting you. 

Why Do People Reject You?

#1 Reason Someone Rejects You – Law of Attraction 

One reason you might be rejected is because of the Law of Attraction. When you are rejected, the person is reflecting back to you what you believe to be true about yourself.

Do you think you aren’t good enough? If you do then someone will come along to prove you right.

Law of Attraction is similar to a mirror. What you feel about yourself is reflected back to you in your outside world. If you are rejecting yourself then the outside world will also reject you. If you accept yourself then the outside world will also accept you.

I’ve dealt with this one personally. An ex broke up with me and he told me he didn’t even know why. He just felt it was the right thing to do.

It hurt pretty bad at the time. Later on, an intuitive told me that I brought it upon myself because I didn’t feel like I was as good as him. This made sense as I did feel like he was better than me.  So, he reflected back to me what I was vibrating via the Law of Attraction even though I didn’t realize it at the time.

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#2 Reason Someone Rejects You – They Don’t Feel Good Enough for You 

Sometimes people reject you because they don’t feel worthy of you. If someone doesn’t feel good enough for you then they might reject you. They actually believe that you are too good for them and that they don’t deserve you. It is their issue, not yours, so try to not take it personally.

I’ve seen individuals reject others that they perceived as better because they thought they weren’t good enough. By rejecting them, it made them feel better about themselves.

You may be drawing individuals into your experience via the Law of Attraction that causes you to not feel good about yourself based on a belief you have. So, take a look and notice if it’s a pattern in your life.

Are you constantly attracting individuals who don’t feel worthy of you? If so, you might need to change something in your vibration to begin to attract the right people to you.

#3 Reason Someone Rejects You – They Are No Longer Interested in You & What You Have to Offer 

We are in relationships because of what the other person offers us. This goes for all types of relationships. We always get something from them as they do from us. Whether that is joy, love, fun, fulfillment, happiness, expansion, etc. When someone no longer feels they want or need these things from you, they will end the relationship hence reject you.

It’s normal to lose interest in someone and what they have to offer. We aren’t meant to always be excited about the same people forever more. We have different people in our lives during different times depending on what we are learning and the themes we are working on.

Whether you realize it or not, you are in relationships for some purpose. People are in relationships with you as well for what you have to offer them. It works both ways. If they feel like they no longer need anything from you it might come across that they aren’t interested in you. But it’s more about what you have to offer them than it is about you.

On a subconscious level, they may feel like they’ve received all they need from you and therefore end the relationship. It always goes much deeper than surface level and they may not even be aware of why they want to end their relationship with you.

#4 Reason Someone Rejects You – They Aren’t the Right Person for You Even If They Seem That Way 

Have you ever been rejected by someone you barely know but think that you want them in your life? Many people have been. Then did you get the opportunity to get to know them at a later time only to find out they weren’t as great as you thought? 

Sometimes you get the opportunity for a second chance only to realize that the right thing happened in the beginning. They rejected you because you weren’t a match for each other. Somehow in the future, you got your chance but it didn’t go as you expected.

Look at this as a blessing in disguise. What you may think someone is like may actually be nothing that they are truly like. I’ve experienced this first hand and seen that the first rejection was actually a blessing to me. I thought this person was so amazing but once I got to know them found out they were nothing like they portrayed themselves to be on the surface level. Of course, this is not always the case.

But if you are rejected by someone just know that it may be a good thing even if it’s difficult to see. They may just not be right for you and doing you a favor by saving you some heartache by rejecting you.

How to Embrace Rejection – 4 Questions to Ask Yourself

The reason why it is important to embrace rejection is that you can’t avoid it. So, since this isn’t a possibility then you have no other choice but to embrace and learn from the rejection. Here are a few questions to ask yourself to help you to embrace rejection and learn from it.

1. What is the Rejection Telling You? 

I believe that the experiences in our lives are always trying to tell us something. All the negative experiences are lessons for us.

One way to embrace rejection is to ask it what it is trying to tell you. Is it telling you that you have a limiting core belief that you aren’t good enough? If so you might want to work on increasing your self-confidence.

Maybe the rejection is simply telling you that you and another person are on different wavelengths. If someone left your life and rejected you, it might just mean that you are growing at different levels so you go your separate ways. It’s not to say that either of you is better, you are just different. People grow at different speeds.

2. How Does the Rejection Make You Feel?

How bad do you feel when a random person you barely know or don’t even know rejects you? If you feel like it’s the end of the world then you may need to do some exercises to improve your self-confidence. Someone you barely know shouldn’t be able to make you feel that bad. However, if it is someone you know and trust that is a different story.

Pay attention to the emotions that are coming up when this person rejects you. Do you agree with them? All these things are learning experiences. Maybe you need to do some soul searching to figure out why you agree with them. What are you thinking about yourself that the outside world is mirroring back to you?

3. Are You Attracting the Rejection to Yourself?

Maybe it is as simple as using the Law of Attraction to change some of your beliefs. Maybe you have a belief that you are ugly and therefore, the opposite sex keeps rejecting you.

It is up to you to change these beliefs so that your external circumstances change. They are only showing you how you feel via the Law of Attraction.

You might need to do some things that change your view of yourself. Start loving yourself more. Helping out others in need is a great way to increase your self-confidence. Go to the gym and feel good about moving your body. Treat yourself with respect and watch your outside world start to treat you with respect as well.

4. How Well Do You Know This Person?

As I mentioned above, you may only know this person that rejected you on a surface level. They may not be the same person you think they are once you get to know them. Of course, some people will be the same.

I’ve met people who turned out to be completely different after getting to know them. Not saying this is a bad thing. If you get a bad first impression of someone it is possible to get to know them and become great friends also. It can work both ways.

The point is that you really don’t know what kind of a person someone is until you really get to know them. So, if they do reject you it might not be such a bad thing. It might be a great blessing in disguise. 

Embrace Rejection & Don’t Allow it to Be a Negative Experience

These are a few reasons why someone might reject you. Rejection is never an enjoyable experience but with practice, you can learn how to embrace it and learn from it. Rejection doesn’t have to be a negative experience and it doesn’t have to make you feel bad.

Next time you are rejected ask yourself “what is this experience showing me? What can I learn from it?” Rejection is a great teaching tool to learn more about yourself.

~Meghan