7 Huge Manifesting Mistakes & How to Fix Them

Manifesting mistakes happen to everyone when learning how to use the law of attraction. However, these mistakes are something that you can avoid if you know what to look for.

Before getting into manifesting and the law of attraction I made so many manifesting mistakes. I thought I was doing everything right, but I wasn’t getting the results I wanted. So, I dug deeper and paid attention to what I was doing and what was manifesting in my outside world.

Here are the best tips I’ve learned to help you overcome the most common manifesting mistakes.

Manifesting Mistake #1 -You Aren’t Doing Shadow Work

Many people think that when they are manifesting, they have to be happy 24/7. This is simply not true or realistic. I used to be one of those people that tried so hard to be happy. Then I realized that I was manifesting some pretty amazing things when I wasn’t super happy.

For example, I manifested a brand-new house to live in with very cheap payments when I was going through a huge transition and felt down all the time. But what I was doing was my inner work. Every day I’d do my shadow work, feel my emotions, meditate multiple times a day, and I’d accept what was happening to me without resistance.

Shadow work is essentially the same thing as feeling your emotions and working through them. We just give them the term “shadow work” in the spiritual community to define that it’s not usually comfortable work.

Shadow work does work, and I know from experience of doing it for years. My life has shifted so much quicker when I do it vs. trying my hardest not to feel my negative emotions and be fake happy all the time.

Manifesting Mistake #2 – You Aren’t Open to Receive

One of the most common manifesting mistakes that I see often is that people will attract what they want and then when it comes, they aren’t open to receiving it. This is because once it comes, you question your worthiness. You might think, “do I deserve to have this thing that I just attracted to me?”

If you aren’t open to receiving, then it can be really hard for your manifestation to fully be experienced by you. While you may attract it to you, if you aren’t open to receiving it, then it will go away.

This is why you may attract a partner and then soon after they leave. You didn’t fully receive them. You had some resistance when the manifestation showed up.

As another example, think about a time you gave someone a gift that they loved. How did you feel when they opened it and received it with joy and excitement? I bet you felt pretty amazing.

Now, think about a time that you gave someone a gift and they didn’t receive it in the way you expected. Maybe it wasn’t the right one. Or perhaps they didn’t show much joy or excitement. Maybe they said they didn’t deserve it. How did you feel? I bet it didn’t feel very great.

That is the way it works when manifesting. If you feel unworthy or think you don’t deserve it, or it’s the wrong gift (i.e., not exactly what you are trying to manifest) and you receive it in an unenthusiastic way, the giver (God, the Universe, Source, whatever you want to name it) won’t be as excited about giving you another gift.

If you show appreciation, excitement, and confidence when you receive your gift, it makes it easier for more things to get through to you. So, next time you receive a gift, really milk the good feelings that come along with it. Do your best to fully receive it and enjoy it.

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Manifesting Mistake #3 – You Aren’t Being Specific Enough

Being specific is really important when working with the law of attraction. If you aren’t specific, then you get whatever you are in alignment with. You get to decide exactly what you want.

Maybe you haven’t actually sat down and decided what you want. If you don’t know, I recommend that you spend some time figuring it out and writing down what you want.

As an example, I manifested a relationship by writing down on paper what I wanted. 2 days later, I met this man. I didn’t know it was him when I first met him, but as time developed, we grew our relationship. I realized that he was everything on my list! There wasn’t one check mark that he didn’t tick off. However, I did not write on my list that he should be local. So, the universe brought me an amazing man who lived in a different country. After that 2-year relationship ended, I learned that I need to be more specific!

Manifesting Mistake #4 – You Don’t Feel Worthy to Have What You Want

If you are trying to manifest something and it isn’t happening, it’s worth it to look at whether you feel worthy of having it. You may not even realize that you don’t feel deserving of this thing.

How do you know if you feel worthy to receive it? Imagine having it, how does that make you feel? Does it feel exhilarating and joyful, or does it make you feel uncomfortable and unworthy?

If it’s the latter, then it’s more important for you to work on your self-worth before trying to manifest this thing.  Once you get to the place where you feel worthy of having it, then go back to manifesting what you want.

These journal prompts will help you to strengthen your self-worth, “The Most Powerful Journaling Prompts For Self-Worth.

Manifesting Mistake #5 – You’re Suffocating Your Manifestation

If you feel desperate and very needy to have your desire, then it has no room to breathe. This type of energy comes from fear and is not the type of energy that will help you get your desire.

Have you ever noticed that certain things that you don’t care as much about manifest really fast while things you really want take longer? This is because you don’t have resistance to the things you don’t care about as much.

The key here is to drop some of that resistance. How do you do that when you want something so bad?

There are a few things you can try. One is to raise your vibration. When you raise your vibration, it moves you from fear which is a lower emotion, into a higher more positive emotion. This is where it will be easier to manifest your desire.

Have you ever noticed that you don’t care as much about getting your manifestation when you feel good? It’s not that you’ve let go of your desire, you’ve just let go of the fear of not having it. That is what having a high vibration does. It helps you to drop the fear of not having something.

So, next time you catch yourself in fear because you want something really bad, do whatever you can to change up your energy so that your desire has some room to breathe.

Another thing you can do when you feel desperate and feel like you are suffocating your manifestation is to turn the focus from your manifestation to yourself. What I mean by this is to start focusing on your internal state and not the thing you want.

Work on growing your self-love and do whatever other inner work you think will benefit you right now. What happens on the inside eventually shows up on the outside. So, you change the outside reflection by changing your internal state. Move away from the manifestation and go inwards.

Look at the traits this manifestation will bring you and then begin to grow those traits within yourself. For example, if you want money because it will make you feel secure, how can you feel secure first within yourself? Work on that and then the reflection of security will come via money.

Manifesting Mistake #6 – You Keep Thinking About What You Don’t Want

One of the most common manifesting mistakes is focusing on what you don’t want vs what you do want. It’s natural human behavior to focus on what you don’t want as most of us have been programmed this way.

It will take some conscious effort to start focusing on what you do want. Notice your thoughts and your words and every time you think or talk about what you don’t want, change it around to what you do want.

Manifesting Mistake #7 – Setting  a Deadline

I’ve heard many law of attraction teachers say that setting a deadline lets the universe know when you need your manifestation by, and you’ll get it. However, I’ve had a different experience.

This one is tricky but yes, it does work for some people to set a deadline and that is great. However, it doesn’t work for everyone.

Whenever I’ve set a deadline and then I didn’t receive my deadline by a certain time I felt defeated, and frustrated, like I sucked at the law of attraction and not to mention hopeless. Maybe you can relate?

However, whenever I trusted in the timing and just kept focusing on what I wanted, it came when I least expected it. I didn’t have a  chance to put any of that defeated energy into it because I knew it would come at the perfect time.

You have to do what is right for you and I recommend trying both. Try setting a deadline and try not setting one. Notice which one feels the best and which one manifests first.

~ Meghan