Is What You Want What You Really Want?

We all want things in life that we think will make us happy. But what if what you THINK you want isn’t really what you want?

I know for me I recently had an experience that made me question if what I have wanted for 4 years is really what I still want? This experience has left me a little lost and questioning everything. How could I think I wanted something only to realize that it’s not what my soul wants anymore? Maybe all the other things that I think I want aren’t what I truly want or aren’t what is best for me anymore.

Are you holding onto something that is no longer who you are? As we experience more life our preferences change often without us even noticing. Is what you want what you really want?

You Don’t Know If What You Want is Truly What You Want Until You Experience It

There is absolutely no way of knowing if the things you think you want will bring you happiness until you experience them. Experience is everything in life. Without experience, all you have to go by is other people’s opinions and what you can envision in your head. Experience is what makes up life and what molds you as a person.

How could you know that you don’t like tomatoes if you’ve never tried one? It’s impossible to know. You can’t go off of looks alone. It is like this for everything. You don’t know if you and a certain person are right for each other until you spend time with that person. Once again looks alone won’t tell the whole story.

Sometimes We Think We Want Something Because Someone Else Has Convinced Us It is What Is Best for Us

I love CrossFit but that doesn’t mean that you will love it. I can talk your ear off about it and convince you that it will make your life better and you may actually believe me. You won’t know until you try it out for yourself but you may believe it is what is best for you because I have convinced you that it is. But everyone is different and you may absolutely hate it. People can persuade your opinion for just about anything. But you’ll never know until you experience it for yourself.

People Grow & Change & So Does What They Want in Life

When you were 18 years old you might have thought that you wanted to be an actress and you might have kept this dream for years. When you turn 30 your dream finally comes true after all this time! But it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. You have to put in long hours and there is lots of traveling involved. Maybe if you were in your teens you’d love that kind of a life but now that you are married with kids and in your 30’s your dream doesn’t fit with your lifestyle anymore. You have grown and changed and so have your dreams.

It’s OK to let go of these things that you thought you wanted. You may think “but I’ve waited so long to get this and now that it’s finally here I don’t want to give it up”. That is going to hold you back from what you want NOW. It’s part of life to grow and change and it’s OK if you let go of your dreams that you have been gripping onto so tightly for so long.

My Experience – I Thought I Wanted Something for Years but Once I Experienced it I No Longer Wanted It

I had an experience where I thought I wanted to be with this certain person. We dated for a couple of months 4 years ago. It was one of those things when the first day I met him I just knew I’d marry him. Well, we broke up and 4 years later he came back into my life completely out of the blue. I was ecstatic! I was so happy for this chance to re-connect and hopefully get back together with him, FINALLY.

As it turns out I realized that we might not be so great for each other anymore. We are pretty much the same people but having some time apart made me realize that maybe what I thought I wanted I don’t actually want. It gave me a great sense of peace that the Universe is working out exactly as it should be. There are no mistakes. 

It also gave me a painful sense of loss, everything that I thought I wanted for 4 years isn’t what I really want. I felt like I lost a part of me because that dream of getting back together with him has shaped my whole life these past 4 years. It is hard to let a part of yourself go.  It is more about me than him and how I envisioned my life to go.

It’s OK to NOT Want What You Once Did

It’s OK to let go of the things that you have been holding onto for a long time. It is a sad thing to do but once you do let go of the things that you only thought you wanted it will leave room for the things that you really do want. It will make room for the things that are best for your soul.

~Meghan