How To Feel Your Emotions: 6 Courageous Ways

If you are looking for how to feel your emotions, it’s first important to understand that your emotions aren’t good or bad. They are simply messengers that are here to help you and provide you with insights.

Your emotions are supposed to be felt and expressed. They aren’t supposed to be stuffed down inside of you and ignored. Just like no human likes to be ignored, your emotions are no exception. They want to be acknowledged because they have something important to tell you.

Why Is It Important to Feel Your Emotions?

It’s important to feel your emotions because that is literally their job. They want to be felt because they have a message for you. You cannot receive the message as profoundly if you don’t feel them.

Think of your emotions as a navigation guide (a GPS) coming to let you know what is up. You wouldn’t get mad at a map for telling you that you are on the wrong route or that you should turn left up ahead. You also wouldn’t feel ashamed if your map told you to go right. Getting mad at your emotions or feeling shame for having them is the same thing. They are guiding you and are here to help you.

Your emotions can tell you that the decision you are about to make is a great idea.

Or they may tell you that the way you feel about someone isn’t beneficial to you.

They may alert you that you are still carrying a burden from the past and it’s time to release it.

Or they may tell you that this new person you just met is great for you. They are always communicating with you through how you feel.

If you feel good and expansive, they are saying, “yes, this is for you!” If you are feeling low and depressed, they are saying, “this is not for you.”

Your emotions may let you know that a certain belief isn’t serving you or that it’s time to move in a new direction. If you listen, there is always a message.

It’s also important to feel your emotions because when you don’t, it creates resistance within you. It can cause anxiety, frustration, fear, or depression.

Emotions are energy and they like to move. They like to move in and out of you. They don’t like to be stuck. When they are stuck, they can not only cause emotional upset but physical upset as well.

Your physical body will always let you know when you’ve stuffed down an emotion that wants to be felt. It will do this through aches and pain (which is stuck energy.) 

How to Feel Your Emotions

1. Release Any Guilt or Shame for Having Emotions

The first thing to understand is that everyone on earth has emotions that rise high on the vibrational scale and that drop down low on the scale. If you’ve been alive for a few years, then you’ve felt every emotion at some point in your life. Emotions are normal. I want to make this clear because society can say otherwise.

There is absolutely no shame in feeling low or being depressed or angry. When you label these ‘negative emotions’ as bad or wrong, that is when it affects you in a negative way. But the emotion itself is not wrong or bad.

You are allowed to feel what you feel no matter what anyone else says. Take some pressure off of yourself and know that part of the human experience is having emotions and that includes lower-vibration emotions. You live on earth and lower emotions come with your trip here to earth. You can’t escape them (at least not until you are in 5D consciousness.)

2. Allow Your Emotions In

Allow your emotions to be present with you. Invite them in and tell them that it is ok that they are here. Don’t judge them or think or are bad, simply be here with them.

You should feel a lightness when you do this. It should feel as if you dropped a ton of resistance and that is because you are no longer resisting your emotions.

3. Validate Your Emotions

When looking at how to feel your emotions, it’s important to validate them. Say exactly how they make you feel without holding back. Don’t try to sugarcoat them or deny how you feel, be as honest with yourself as you can. You may say things such as:

“I feel __________” (insert emotion)

“I am angry that ________” (insert your reason why)

“It’s ok that I feel ________ right now” (insert emotion)

“I am frustrated because _______” (insert your reason why) 

4. Notice How Your Emotions Feel in Your Body And the Messages That Come Through

After you’ve invited in your emotions and validated them, notice how they feel in your body.

• Are they moving to a certain area in your body?
• What does this area represent to you? For example, if it’s in your stomach it may represent your personal power as that is where your solar plexus is.
• Is there a message there for you?
• What are the thoughts that are coming up as you tune into your emotions?

Take time to really feel and notice what is happening on a physical and emotional level as your emotions move through you. The messages that pop into your head are your intuition. Your emotions are delivering these messages to you.

5. Journal About How You Feel

Now that you’ve observed your emotions, it’s time to write out EXACTLY how you feel without any guilt or shame.

If you are mad at someone, write it out! If you want to quit your job, write it out! If you hate someone or something right now, write it out. Don’t hold back. This is one of the healthiest ways to feel and release your emotions.

This is what I like to call doing shadow work, where you write out all the negative thoughts and feelings you have without an ounce of guilt. You are allowed to feel however you want.

I do recommend not letting anyone read your journal and keeping it somewhere safe as your own personal item.  If you are being real and authentic, it might offend some people who read it. Keep it as your own and be as real and open as you can. 

6. Allow Your Body to Integrate Your Emotions and Then Release Them

One of the most important parts of how to feel your emotions is to integrate and process them. What does that mean? It means sitting with that emotion for some time and allowing it to do whatever it needs to do for you. It can take some time to integrate your emotions.

So, you may be feeling your emotions and then not feel like going out and having your normal routine. You may feel like being alone while this emotion is with you. This is the emotion doing its thing.

If you are used to pushing your emotions away, this may be uncomfortable. Allow that emotion to be with you for as long as it needs to in order to deliver its messages to you. You’ll know when it’s done because you will feel like your normal self again.

Final Thoughts – How to Feel Your Emotions

Feeling your emotions is a powerful thing that can benefit you in many ways. Your emotions are messengers that are here to deliver guidance to you, and they want to be felt and expressed so that you can receive these messages.

When you push down your emotions, you encounter resistance. This resistance can show up as physical pain or emotional turmoil. If you keep doing this, you may explode on someone you don’t want to or in a situation that you don’t want to. This is why it’s important to feel your emotions on your terms when they have the most benefit to you and before they get out of control.

Feeling your emotions is brave because so many people aren’t willing to look at their “negative emotions” for fear that the emotion is bad or that they are bad. It’s not their fault, society has taught us is bad to express ourselves. But now is the time to start to integrate your emotions in a healthy way that benefits you and others around you.

~Meghan